*Think about the filters you use to eliminate people from consideration as potential romantic partners. What characteristics or behaviors lead you to judge others as unattractive? Does Duck's theory make sense to you? Have you ever eliminated someone by using a sociological or pre-interaction cue only to reconsider them based on interaction and cognitive cues?
The filters I have used to eliminate people from consideration as potential romantic partners sociological or incidental cues, physical proximity, preinteraction cues, interaction cues, and cognitive cues. Yup, I have used them allJ
The characteristics or behaviors that lead me to judge others as unattractive are awkward and difficult conversations, little feedback in a conversation, lack of confidence, little to no sense of humor, nonverbal behavior that I encode as negative, and bad hygiene.
Yes, Duck’s theory makes sense to me because whether we know it or not, on some level we do have an idea of the kind of partner we would like and we do go through a process to see who might be a possible date and who will be just a friend, and sometimes who we hope to never see again.
Yes, I have eliminated someone by using the pre-interaction cue, but not the sociological cue. I place a high emphasis on nonverbal messages and most times they do all the talking needed.
Happy BloggingJ
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I agree with your premise that Preinteraction cues are very reliable. Most of the time they save everyone the heartache by just focusing on the non-verbal cues. No need to be concerned with the Incidental Cues--the preinteraction cues will click in to elimination mode right away. When you are in a committed relationship you need to learn to create a specific roadblock at the Cognitive Cues. This roadblock helps to eliminate any devastating problems in the future. Keeping your friends and romantic partners separated in two distinct groups can be a chore. Does anyone know how to turn this Attraction Filter off?
Hi Cherry! You mentioned nonverbal behaviors a couple of times in this post. You also mentioned what a couple of them were, are there more that you base your judgment on? If so, what nonverbal cues do you deem unattractive enough to eliminate someone quickly?
Hello Cherry,
I enjoyed reading you blog! I also wrote in my bolg that I have used all the filters mentioned in our textbook because filters help us guard ourselves when entering a potential romantic relationship. Your examples of what you find unattractive seem common, which I agreed with all of your examples. It is funny how when we first meet someone we use filters and even later we may use the some filters just at a different level then before. Verbal and non-verbal go hand in hand when meet at potential romantic partner because they have to have the look and the verbal skills to keep you interested :)
I hope you have a GREAT weekend!
Thanks,
Blondie
I judge others on the same characteristics as you. I agree the preinteraction cues can do all the talking. However, I often am miss lead and do not eliminate others on their preinteraction cues. Sometimes it is not until later that people show who they really are and you must eliminate them because of their cognitive or interaction cues. In some cases people eliminate too fast and do not give the other person a chance to show who they are and all they can provide. Other times it is just the opposite and we do not eliminate people as soon as we should have because we did not listen to our instincts.
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