~ Do you agree that men and women use language differently? In what areas?
Without a doubt, I agree that men and women use language differently. From the moment we are born we are socialized to be like a girl or a boy. This socialization includes the use of language and how it is different for girls and boys.
Girls are active listeners, nodding their heads, or giving a one word, Uh Huh, and facial expressions to give their speaker a sense that they are listening and hearing what is being said.
Girls are more focused on the connection between themselves and the speaker to build rapport and boys are more concerned with the facts and solving the problem.
Girls are relationally orientated talkers, whereas, boys are task orientated talkers.
In my own personal relationship, I try to be close with my finace by asking him about his day and really wanting to hear every little detail, however, there are times when I ask him how his day was just to ask and I really don't want to hear all the details. On the flip side my fiance does fall into most of the gender different communication categories, but not always. He does ask about my day and really wants to hear everything, he doesn't always try and fix the problem when I am talking to him, and he definitely shares his intimate private matters with me and it is not because I bring them up.
So, typically, yes, men and women do communicate and use language differently, but, it would be a stereotype to say that all men and women communicate the same way. I think we are changing the way we socialize our children and by becoming aware of our differences in any situation or relationship will change our communication and language use between genders.
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I agree that men and women use language differently. Although I believe you were too quick to offer the women in your survey the "Great Listener" trophy. You eventually indicate a less emphatic label of men as non-listeners. My experience has been much like yours. I have met many women that were in touch with their feelings and were able to reveal their immediate thoughts to help their specific issue. Yet, I have also found men to be very forth coming in sharing their insecurities about their troubles as well. The one thing that I agree with is that men and women use their body language in different ways. My experience has been that women are less "open" when meeting for the first time, while men use their stature to stake their area. Both body languages change after a few minutes depending on the reaction of the other people (person) in the room.
I too agree that men and women use language differently. I dont think men are as empathetic in their listening skills, women however are!! I think that women are very attentive within the detail of their stories while men are straight to the point. I think that with women they tend to use more hand gestures when then speak, I dont think males really do that, not that I have seen anyways. When speaking to a women she tends to be more interested in the conversation while the male male might wonder off at times. Women tend to be much more active listeners than men, men With women its ok to give them a series of questions and they will remember what was asked and then answer accordingly. As with men you need to ask one question at a time beces its harder for them to handle more than one thing at a time. Not to say that each indvidual falls within either or category but most do
I definitely agree that women are more active listeners. I always try and show that I am listening and keeping track of a person's story by asking questions and words like "uh-huh" and "yeah." Sometimes when I'm talking to a guy I can't tell if they're really listening or not because they never give any indication that they are still listening. I have to constantly test my boyfriend by randomly not talking or quiz him on the last thing I said. It always turns out he was listen quite closely. Unfortunately I actively listen so much that he can tell when I'm not really listening because I don't use my normal listening-indicator gestures.
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